Love Changes The Plan

Some women can't wait for the day to get married and pass on the tradition of having a family. Notice how I wrote "some". In this century alot more women are career oriented thus putting family goals on the back burner. They are deciding to put forth more energy pursuing educational and professional goals rather than taking someone's last name.

You can make the blueprint to your life but life is unexpected and there will be unexpected changes. When you feel you have everything in place and someone comes in and changes that plan it can be a scary thing. Just because it's something unfamiliar do you not explore it? Or do you let go and let love in and explore a new desire? This in no way means throwing away everything you've worked for but curiosity get's the best of us. You start to shift your focus to love and the things you never thought you wanted. Those who never thought about marriage and kids start to think about those things. Before you know you're taking steps into that direction.

Although you may have your idea of what life will be like, you never really know. It's always subject to change especially when love comes into the picture. I am not the one to say pass by on love. It can be a terrible thing or it can be the best thing in the world. You don't want to have worked your entire life and not know what real unconditional love feels like. We are in a new year. If you feel this piece is talking to you do me a favor in 2010 and let love in for a change and allow yourself to experience everything love has to offer.

O-Town to NYC Dinner with DJ Lady T

Dinner with the girls is so much fun. Especially when you haven't seen some friends as often as others. I went to dinner with Anne and, some of my girlfriends that I used to work with over at HOT 97, Andrea and Tiffany. Tiffany moved to Orlando 3 years ago to take an On Air position at Power 95.3FM and she was only in town for a few days so I just could not let her leave without me seeing her.

We had so much fun catching up and doing what girls do best...gossip! I just can't get over Tiffany singing the wrong lyrics to Rihanna's "Hard" song. "where them blockas at where them blockas" lol. It's we had to really google to the lyrics to see that she was really singing, "where them bloggers at where them bloggers at". LOL

Check out some of the pictures from our night.

HELP OUR BROTHERS AND SISTERS IN HAITI

When I first found out about the earthquake in Haiti I was in pure shock. This is a country that is very poor by all means. People usually don't take action unless it affects them directly. But guess what this is our people and it does affect us DIRECTLY!!! I am extremely proud of the 16-32 age group for all the efforts made to lend a helping hand from quickly setting up events where donations can be made and urging others of what foundations they can support and donate to. Haitian artist Wyclef Jean has been an advocate for Haiti forever and if you are not aware he has a foundation called "Yele Haiti". You can help out right from your phone and it only takes 2 seconds. All you have to do is text "Yele" to 501501 and a $5 donation will be charged to your phone bill. Some of us spend more than that on breakfast or lunch alone. Also The American Red Cross is accepting donations. They have already pledged an initial $200,000 toward relief efforts.

I'm also very proud of President Obama for acting so quickly and being the first to offer Haiti any kind of help. Gotta love that man! . According to CNN, as of 3pm today The US Coast Guard has mobilized ships and air crafts to positions where they can be quickly sent to Haiti if needed. I know there are many Haitians that live in the U.S. that are sick with worry and anticipation for loved ones in Haiti. You can call the State Department line to check on loved ones at 1-888-407-4747.

The more information I get about relief efforts and events to give donations I will be placing it on the blog, so check back periodically.

PLEASE DO YOUR PART TO HELP!!!

UPDATE:

There will be a Prayer Vigil tonight at 6pm at Haitian Consulate located at 271 Madison Avenue, NY, NY, between E39th & E40th Streets.

Monday at Club Gravity from 4pm-12am donations will be given to http://www.savethechildren.org/, http://www.directrelief.org/, and The Red Cross.

I AM Haiti Fundraiser this Friday 1/22 at the Cribbean Cultural Center. For more information contact @PattyDukesNYC on twitter.

I Remember Doing A Good Deed

It was on a hot summer afternoon back in 2001. I was coming home from work and I was tired. I just wanted to get home as soon as possible. This was when I was working in White Plains so I usually took the Metro North home from work and where I get off there's this huge hill I have to walk up. So when I got to the top of this hill I went inside this cab base that's on the corner. I told the dispatcher where I was going and he told me it would be a 20 minute wait. I was tired so I told him to forget it and I left. I walked around the corner in front of the supermarket where there are usually a couple of cabs there. I was right! There was only one cab and I was quick to get it.

As I was about to get in I noticed an old woman that lived on my block with a lot of groceries in her cart. I knew she wouldn't be able to push that cart all the way home with all those groceries in the blazing heat. At the moment I just wanted to jump in and tell him my destination. But then I thought, "If it were my grandma I would want someone to look out for her". So, I insisted that she take the cab instead. I helped her with her groceries and put them in the trunk with her shopping cart. I wasn't sure if she has cab fare so I gave the cabbie the fare and I told her to take care and have a nice day. What I was really thinking was "enjoy my ride".

Even though I was tired I'd rather walk those three blocks than hearing about an old woman who passed out on her way home from the supermarket. I wouldn't want that on my conscience, knowing I could have done something to prevent it. So I did! I just seemed like the humane thing to do.


What good deed have you done?

Enough Is Enough!

Breakups can be hard especially when you think it's with someone you feel you could be with for the rest of your life. Now add 10 years of friendship to that. It's like your dating your best friend and that could be the best feeling in the world. But this is reality and it has to poke its head in when things seem to good to be true sometimes. I believe it's God's way of showing you peoples true colors.

As you all know I get pretty personal on this here blog and tonight I've got something on my chest that I really need to release. I can't for the sake of me understand why some dudes never know when enough is enough! As I've moved on and I'm happy I'm still reminded of a recent douche lord that I wasted energy on for too long. I'm sick of hearing that he's asking how I'm doing, I'm sick of hearing that you were talking about me, and I am sick of hearing that my name is even still coming out of your mouth like diarrhea! It's bad enough you've gone and worked your way into my network of friends online. I feel like you're everywhere with out being there. GO AWAY ALREADY!

If anyone knows me they know that I am the nicest, most sincere and sweet person. It takes a lot to push me to the dark side of my zodiac sign, the crab! What I would really love is if this guy would do me the kind favor of forgetting me, erasing our relationship from his past, and deleting any great memories from our friendship out of his brain. Enough is enough already! Just move on because I have and I would appreciate it if you did the same.

Happy New Years!

First I want to say Happy New Years to everyone!

This year I've had a lot of ups and downs professionally and personally. I started 2009 newly separated from my boyfriend of a year and I was miserable at my job. I was working a job that I literally hated but it paid the bills. So I sucked it up and stayed. But I am a firm believer in God and he knew how I felt about my situation and what I really wanted to do with my life so he took me out of that situation and cleared a path for me. I was laid off in May and since then I have put forth more effort into my radio show and I began to focus more of my time on writing. I've always been the type of girl known to write in her diary every night. I'm not ashamed to say that I did that up until just 3 years ago and I must say I missed it. This time I decided to do a digital diary and leave my life as an open book to you all.

If you've read some of my other posts you'll notice that I wrote about heartbreak and that's because a douche lord from my past came back into my life and I gave him another chance. Sometime I think I'm too nice! Well anyway it was a blessing because had it not been for those nights where I was pouring my heart out on this laptop I would not have gotten the job of writing about love, sex, and relationships for Singersroom.com. Which I was super excited about because it's my first paid writing gig (pats on my shoulder)! Now I can call myself an official freelance writer, lol.

God puts people in your life for a reason. Even though at the time I didn't know why douche lord was back, now I know why. I'm thankful for what I have now and I know I deserve what I have now.

So thanks douche lord!!! I'm a success and I continue to be a bigger success story in 2010.