Hey Dolls,
In a day in age where technology is basically used for everything you can say its become a huge part of the average Americans life. You don't even have to have real life conversations anymore since they all seem to be so easy as a click of a button. This leads me to my question. Is texting ruining the dating process? And if so, how can we incorporate texting to make it more interesting?
I remember a time where you meet a guy, exchange information and actually get to hear his voice. You know what I mean. When those first couple of phone calls go on to the wee hours in the morning just getting to know each other. Finding out whats that person's favorite color, favorite food, what makes them laugh, what makes them angry, what their passions are, what their goals are. All the things people fail to find out because they lack those conversations. I ask myself does this even happen anymore? With everyone on these social networking sites such as myspace.com, tagged.com, twitter.com, and even facebook now it makes it so impersonal to get to know someone. Half the time people are fabricating who they really are and you never even know. But that's a whole other blog!
Then we have cell phones with the texting, BBM's (blackberry users), AIM's, Google chat, etc. I don't know who started this rumor that women would rather talk through text then actually receiving a phone call but its not true. Women actually love getting phone calls from the guy they're excited that they just met. Unfortunately, its either men have gotten lazy or they just don't know a phone call when getting to know a woman is way better than a text any day. Don't get it twisted, texting and all that other stuff can be fun as well if done correctly. So I'm going to set the record straight on some Do's and Don't when texting a lady!
1. Don't text me in place of the first getting to know each other phone call.
1. Do text me the next day letting me know it was nice to meet me.
2. Don't text me sexual thoughts you had of me after knowing me for only a month. We not that cool!
2. Do text me something sweet that is also respectful that you think will put a smile on my face.
3. Don't text me or call me for that matter after 10pm if that is the only time your fingers know my number. If that is the only time you have available to talk to me you got the wrong one here.
3. Do call or text me nice morning greetings to start my day off.
4. Don't text me if you want to ask me on a date? It makes you look weak. (To me at least)
4. Do call me if you want to ask me on a date.
5. Don't text me to have a serious conversation. Really how serious can it be through text?
5. Do call me if you have something serious to talk about. Its easier to read a person's voice and how they communicate when you can actually hear their voice.
So guys this post is not to scare you about texting it's just to let you know what a lady expects. Now if you are trying to attract little girls then those shenanigans might work but trust a real woman would not expect nothing less!
In a day in age where technology is basically used for everything you can say its become a huge part of the average Americans life. You don't even have to have real life conversations anymore since they all seem to be so easy as a click of a button. This leads me to my question. Is texting ruining the dating process? And if so, how can we incorporate texting to make it more interesting?
I remember a time where you meet a guy, exchange information and actually get to hear his voice. You know what I mean. When those first couple of phone calls go on to the wee hours in the morning just getting to know each other. Finding out whats that person's favorite color, favorite food, what makes them laugh, what makes them angry, what their passions are, what their goals are. All the things people fail to find out because they lack those conversations. I ask myself does this even happen anymore? With everyone on these social networking sites such as myspace.com, tagged.com, twitter.com, and even facebook now it makes it so impersonal to get to know someone. Half the time people are fabricating who they really are and you never even know. But that's a whole other blog!
Then we have cell phones with the texting, BBM's (blackberry users), AIM's, Google chat, etc. I don't know who started this rumor that women would rather talk through text then actually receiving a phone call but its not true. Women actually love getting phone calls from the guy they're excited that they just met. Unfortunately, its either men have gotten lazy or they just don't know a phone call when getting to know a woman is way better than a text any day. Don't get it twisted, texting and all that other stuff can be fun as well if done correctly. So I'm going to set the record straight on some Do's and Don't when texting a lady!
1. Don't text me in place of the first getting to know each other phone call.
1. Do text me the next day letting me know it was nice to meet me.
2. Don't text me sexual thoughts you had of me after knowing me for only a month. We not that cool!
2. Do text me something sweet that is also respectful that you think will put a smile on my face.
3. Don't text me or call me for that matter after 10pm if that is the only time your fingers know my number. If that is the only time you have available to talk to me you got the wrong one here.
3. Do call or text me nice morning greetings to start my day off.
4. Don't text me if you want to ask me on a date? It makes you look weak. (To me at least)
4. Do call me if you want to ask me on a date.
5. Don't text me to have a serious conversation. Really how serious can it be through text?
5. Do call me if you have something serious to talk about. Its easier to read a person's voice and how they communicate when you can actually hear their voice.
So guys this post is not to scare you about texting it's just to let you know what a lady expects. Now if you are trying to attract little girls then those shenanigans might work but trust a real woman would not expect nothing less!
My friend and I were JUST talking about this subject. I guess were weren't the only one to notice it. It's such a turn OFF when a guy tries to get to know me via text only! What happened to a simple conversation? There's nothing like hearing that person's voice, plus I talk a lot I'm not trying to text all day that takes too long...
ReplyDeleteThis is so true and so well written. I think of this topis all the time and although I am a "textaholic" I like to get phone calls from a guy I like I like to laugh out loud and hear his voice. And its sad but I do think we are in a time where technology is taking over. I think to put an end to it you need to just simply just tell a guy that you would rather talk than text and don't respond to his texts lol. Love the article
ReplyDeleteShakeera Frazer
Loved the Do's and Donts of texting...but yes I do think texting is ruining the "get to know you factor"...its rare that anyone uses the phone anymore...guys are either not that interested in holding a phone convo, they are lazy, or just not "phone people" lol
ReplyDeleteYes I agree with you! Texting does ruin dating. I was talking to this guy and he started texting me a lil too much so I had to check that! I like to hear them over the phone and actually have a nice conversation. I think men have become lazy. Another man had the nerve to tell me he doesn't like to talk on the phone, meanwhile he just upgraded his phone to text! SMH! If you want to date a lady please follow these Do's & Don'ts by Ms. Fabulous Summer B!
ReplyDeleteI totally love this blog because it's so true! I've been in a texting relationship for over a year now (i know it's sad). At first we started off talking on the phone to the wee hours but i have a nosey mom that likes to listen to every freakin convo i have on my own damn cell phone so i stopped the calls. Now we strictly text each other.
ReplyDeleteI love the do's and dont's of texting. I truly believe that if you have something important to tell me, it's best not to do it via text. What i do prefer is that you talk not over the phone but in person. I feel like you really cant sense the person's emotions via text or a phone convo. I like the face to face method.
Excellent post Summer!!!
I agree 100%! But I do think that we tend to go with the flow eventhough we're not happy with it. I have no problem telling a guy "hey call me I wanna hear your voice :)" or another subtle hint and I make sure my conversation is so good he'll want to call me all the time! LOL AS far as the websites go, they're just an extension of eharmony.com in my opinion but to each his own...
ReplyDeleteGood work on the wording of your thoughts. As a dude we understand the rules choose to brake them. If you come off as a person we really want to know (not just somebody we want to dip in2 your skins, lords know we will say what ever when ever to get in where we fit in YA HEARD!)then you will notice we act differently.When we want to follow the code of how to treat a lady we will...but we have to treat you like we meet you.
ReplyDelete1. If a whore marching down the ave then thats how we'll see & treat you.
2. If you stuck up walk a bit faster cause we might just play you.
LETS BE HONEST ALL MEN KNOW HOW TO TREAT A LADIES HOW DO YOU THINK WE BRAKE THE RULES ALL SO WELL...MAKES US WANNA CHANGE THRN WE'LL TALK
This is Myke-G360 shouting out my homie holding it down on the air waves Summer I GOT YOU!!!
VERY VERY TRUE I MUST AGREE. TEXTING HAS CAUSED A LOT OF DAMAGES (PERSONALLY SPEAKING) *THUMBS UP*
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