Hey Dolls,
This summer has been a world wind for me professionally, mentally, and most importantly emotionally. The question that has been plaguing me for some time now is when do I know when its time to let go? When you love someone that you have history with but they've wronged you in so many ways how can you still call that love. I used to think that love was this genuine emotional connection with someone but shouldn't that be reciprocated.? Shouldn't that person accept all your flaws, laugh at your corny jokes, nurse you to health, give a shoulder to cry on, lend a ear for listening. There is always that someone who will forever have a piece of your heart. Its that person who you feel you can share EVERYTHING WITH! Whether it may be ugly truths or beautiful lies, at least they are shared. There for you in your time of need; happy or sad. That person you completely let in. And if you are a guarded person with your heart once you let that rare person in why is it so hard to let them go. If at some point its not causing you anything but pain why hold on? Is it the hope of them changing? Sad but very true how we women are so damn forgiving. Nonetheless, the fact of the matter is you can't change a man into being the man you want him to be. It won't work so don't try! Its more worth it to let him go and work on being the man he wants to become. I used to be a firm believer of that old saying, If something is worth having let it go and if it comes back then its meant to be". I'm not too sure if I believe that anymore.
As I embark on this phase in my life where all I can think of is that I'm 3 years from 30 and not even close to where I planned to be. But then I thought you can't plan love, just let it happen. So I'm not going to settle to fit some picture perfect life I thought I might have by now. I'm going to live my life to the fullest and let my enchanted love find me.
How do you all know when its time to let go?
I think its really hard to tell when its time to let go. Its easy for people to tell you to let go but no one knows how you feel and love is something we can't control. We can't control who we love or who we fall in love with. But we can protect ourselves and our feelings so I dont think although you love a person you should let them lie, cheat, or hurt you. Just because you love someone doesn't always mean you two are meant to be together. You can remember the good times and move on when you feel necessary. Don't hang on hoping for something that might never be. N although you can't change a person you can change yourself and your actions.
ReplyDeleteI so needed to hear this right now because this is where I am in my relationship. Thank you for helping me because now I know what I need to do. I have to just let it go. There is too much damage done to me, and I know I will never be able to trust him again.
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(One of your new twitter sisters) ;~)
I think so many of us womencan relate to this topic. We hold on to what a man can be and not actually what they are. I'm in this situation right now and I have been trying so hard to make my relationship work. But the truth of the matter is is that I'm settling and I know I can do much better. It is true what they say sometimes to love a person is to let them go. Summer I love your blogs.
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