Change can be a good thing; change can be a bad thing; and most importantly change can be a much necessary thing! But my question is, in relationships do you think people can actually change?
There have been many times that I've heard the saying, "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" and I know most of you have heard it too. Does that mean we are not allowed to forgive people for mistakes? Yes mistakes should only happen once technically but not one person is perfect. Haven't you made questionable mistakes in your life that you regret and just wished someone would forgive you? If so than we all have transgressions that we are not proud of its what changes you make to correct those faults.
Now back to relationships, let's just say they can bring you the best feelings imaginable and the worst all at the same time. Can anyone say roller-coaster? When a partner has wronged you in the past do you think it's possible to forgive them? You have some women who never forgive; one strike and you're out! Then you have those who forgive too much; those are doormats. Don't get me wrong I believe in forgiving and that people can change but most times we woman want men to change when we want them to. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way but that doesn't mean they can't change it just has to be when they are ready to. You'll hear the words used over and over again, "baby I'm gonna change, I'm sorry" and that B.S! I say it's B.S because until you can actually sit down and articulate your issue, why you do the things you do to damage the relationship, admit fault and give examples on how you've changed then you haven't. If you can do that it will give your partner a chance to clearly decide on whether to believe you have changed and to forgive you. I believe everyone should be forgiven, that doesn't mean forget. It just means to forgive and move on. Now you can move on without that person or decide to move on with that person and rebuild and trust again. And that person has to realize that they are to earn that trust back it's not just given.
Therefore let's stop being so harsh on people and communicate better. But if you honestly feel that that person is not ready to change then walk away. Don't sit in it thinking they are going to change for you. They only change when they have realized the mistakes they've made. Some people its pretty quick and others take longer to realize. But they eventually do, the question is will you be around to see it!
